The Afterlife of Fatherhood

To the father, the one that loves his children. The father that would come home after a long day’s work excited to walk in the door to see his children’s faces light up his heart. The man that recognizes that father is not just what he has become, but who he is.

But nothing is promised. We must take what we get. Try to stand bold in all our pain. It is the man that must be strong. At a young age the man is programed, men don’t cry. For being heartbroken is weakness.

Relationships and marriage is no longer sacred. It is easier to quit than work. Standards are lowered as we give in to seductions. But these seductions will pass many times over. Sweet words can turn to violence. Nothing is promised, the rose can even make us bleed.

The father makes the self-sacrifice for his children’s sake, he packs up his belongings and leaves his heart at the door behind him. He leaves with devastation, and as the mother has her children to occupy her thoughts, the father has nothing left but his thoughts. He goes not to bed but to where he can lay his head repeating the thoughts of the children’s faces. What was his daily routine, now belongs to the past. What could he have done differently?

The day he welcomed his angel and prince into the world and envisioned his life as a father no longer exists. Sadly, his thoughts and pain are not the worse the father has to endure. Because that mother is only thinking through her anger and not her children’s eyes. The father then realizes that when he walked out that door on that gloomy day that he may have to fight for his rights that god gave him.

The father will find out that the price to see his kids faces is higher than the means in his bank account. The man is empty, the man is weak, the man is part of our justice system where you are no longer a man and a father but obsolete. The man, who was denied his rights as a father is now taken into the court system where he will lose over half of his income to guarantee that he will not be able to afford the costs that justice puts on being a father. His children will grow up thinking that he did not want to spend time with them. But the father will not talk ill on the mother for fear of giving his children any of his own pain, he will instead take the bad name he has gained.

The father will go through financial hardships. The human faces total fear with knowing they have no means to survive. The father carries the same fear along with the upcoming court date and threats of incarceration, that is if he has a good outcome. The father may not be so lucky and find himself surrounded by concrete. He finds himself with a tiny bit of gratefulness that the threat is gone, and it can’t get any worse than this day; justice has done its job taking the man’s strength and giving him weakness.

He feels saddened for his kids, the life they must live without him and what they must think of him. The father not only leaves his heart and pride at the door behind him, but he also changes his title as a man to a criminal.

The laws of our so-called land of the great is taking every piece of a man’s purpose on this earth and isolating him. As a human in this world we rely on our government to have our best interests at heart. We feel the safety as our courts take the thieves and the murderers off the streets. We feel confident that if something bad happens to us we can call the police and hopefully be rescued. The judicial system though takes all the pride of our country away from the strong, hard-working moral of the father.

The father loses the safety in justice that we all carry pride in. We should expect nothing less.

(c) 2019, Andrea R. Rice, All Rights Reserved.


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