Creativity seems to be lacking in today’s pursuit, but ”Hi, can I get to know you?” or ”Hello, how are you?” seems to be the formation of interest. There was a time when my first thought was, ”I can’t believe he said ”Hello, how are you?”, he is hot! This pursuit always pushed me to move too quickly into a superficial relationship that always ended in suffering. Let’s face it, there is only so much to learn on the surface, the earth doesn’t stand still it keeps moving as do we. We are evolutionary creatures. Though I should clarify, it’s not the superficial pursuit that ultimately produced suffering, it was never leaving the surface and moving into an intimate relationship. Their hidden selves eventually peeked its weary head when it wasn’t so simple to move forward. If you find that you keep landing yourself in unsuitable relations, maybe it’s time to change your pursuit.